I Was Ready To Date A Millionaire — Are You?

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So many women say they want to date a millionaire.

Well… I have. And I’m glad I was prepared.

With the exception of him being f*cking brilliant, dating him wasn’t any different than dating a non-millionaire.

I loved that he didn’t lead with his money.
He appreciated that I never asked for any of it.
He presented what he had to offer.
He stated his intentions with me.
He told me his needs.
I presented what I had to offer.
I stated my intentions with him.
I told him my needs.

I held up my end.
He didn’t.
I left.
He flew down to work it out.
I said okay.
He repeated the same behavior.
I left again… this time, for good.

He didn’t cheat and he wasn’t abusive. What I experienced simply showed me my love languages were never going to be embraced or acknowledged. As a result, staying in that relationship would have guaranteed loneliness, never being made a priority, and ending up starved for attention, affection and quality time. Having dealt with all of this before in a previous relationship and knowing the signs, it would have been 100 percent my fault if I stayed long enough for this relationship to get to that point too. It just made sense to end it.

What I’m most proud of is the time I took to really learn ME before I met this brother. Because I knew my needs in a relationship are more emotional and communicative than financial, his money had no influence over my inner clarity. There was definitely some initial anger after I ended things, though the main emotion was massive disappointment. And financially, I suppose at some point I would have had a pretty great life. But I didn’t waste time dreaming about what it could be; I focused on what the experience felt like in the present.

And the present, told me this wasn’t a good fit.

When dating, especially as a woman, it’s important to focus on more than what kind of financial security a man can provide. Having the attention of a millionaire can be intoxicating, and yes there are definitely some perks, but it’s up to you to get clear about what “healthy relationship” means to you… what feels good to you.

And it’s up to you to not settle for less than that. Not even for money.

If you aren’t firm enough on your needs in a relationship and make concessions based on his cash, you’re setting that relationship up for failure.

I can always make my own money. You can too.

A life partner has to be measured against better standards.

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Transformational Coach, Author, Speaker, and Host of “Bouncin’ Back” Podcast. Inspires those who’ve been knocked down by love or life to recover and rebuild.

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